Friday, January 30, 2009

Designer Beliefs

When you set out to achieve something or even do something, it can be hard or it can be easy. It's difficulty or ease depends more on you than you realize. If you set out to do something and have beliefs contrary to what you want to do you will find it tortuous and hard.

For example if you want to make an extra 50000 bucks this month and you believe that you'll have to work 10 times as hard, you'll kill yourself trying to do it.

Many people have negative beliefs about the very thing they'd like to achieve. Money, finding a romantic partner, finding a job, becoming thin, buying a new house, a new office, a new car, making it to the movies, whatever your desire, it must be aligned with your beliefs if you are to see any results at all!

On the other hand if you really aligned your desires with your beliefs you'd feel compelled to move your ass and get things done. You'd be effervescent and bright eyed and bushy tailed. Spreading cheer and hope in your wake!

Everyone likes a believer. Everyone needs someone to show them hope. Be that person, do the exercise below :)

EXERCISE

To find and replace your negative beliefs with positive ones

1. State what it is that you desire

2. As soon as you state it, you will be flooded with thoughts about the desire

3. All these thoughts will reveal your beliefs about this subject

4. Write down all of them without judging them

5. You may have 10-15 thoughts

6. Now check for incongruity, for example if you desire to make more money and you believe that it's 'too much hard work' you need to change that belief to 'making money is effortless'

7. Next to the incongruous beliefs write down the congruent one

8. Find your 'bakwaas' location, this is where we store things we don't believe. Think of something you used to believe in and found out was a lie, like Santa Claus or the tooth fairy or that there's a rabbit in the moon. The place where you focus in order to see this image is your 'bakwaas location'. Bakwaas is a Hindi word that means balderdash, poppycock or bosh.

9. Say the incongruous beliefs, see the visuals they bring up and drag and drop them in the bakwaas location. Imagine a hand sticking them there with superglue.

10. Now find your strong belief location by stating the belief 'breathing is good for me' notice where your eyes focus as you say this, that's were you see the visual of 'breathing is good for me' which is undoubtedly a strong belief in all living people.

11. Take your new congruent beliefs and pop it in this location, so take the visual of 'making money is easy and effortless for me' and pop it in the location of 'breathing is good for me'

12. Do this for all the new beliefs and hear them fit in the new location with a nice click

13. Now open and close your fist 3 times. This is to anchor the belief so that it's easier to reach this neurological state represented by this belief when ever you make and open a fist 3 times.

14. Test the anchor everytime you feel the presence of the old belief. You will smoothly click the new one into place!

If in doubt mail me!

Thursday, January 29, 2009

NLP is a Physical Discipline

If you want to experience something mentally can you do it without involving your body. Can you be 'mentally disturbed' without disturbing your physical body? Try it!

It's all in the body. If you understand this you can change any mental state by altering your physical state. When you visualize something ie make pictures of something it's done relative to your body. Your body is at the centre of all your mental activity.

Your biochemistry and your neurology, real things! And they make things real for you!

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Talking to the unconscious of another person

By now it must be clear to the regular readers of this blog that every person has two minds. One that is under our direct manual control called the conscious mind and the other an auto pilot system called the unconscious mind. All this is contained in our neurology and brain. Millions of small subroutines are executed every minute by your body without any assistance from your consciousness. The neurology uses chemicals to communicate commands to the various organs of the body.

The unconscious is a highly programmable system and can be programmed to our suit our convenience. However many people don't understand this. They think aging and disease is outside their control, so they continue to kill themselves with bad feelings.

In this post I'm going to share a transformation with you. To write it I have to get into a deep trance and it would be great if you come with me.

You have to understand that bad feelings result from the malfunction of any part of the body. There was this person who claimed she was mentally disturbed. I told her there was no such thing. She became more disturbed when she heard that! So I quickly asked her, 'How do you know you're disturbed mentally?' To which she replied immediately, I feel crushed at my chest, I feel like a heavy weight has been placed on my chest.

This was true. I could see from her posture that her muscles were responding to resist this imaginary weight. But my point was made. You know that you have a bad feeling only when something in your body malfunctions. That's why you feel 'bad'. In this case her muscles were straining the heart and lungs, thereby straining all of the body. If you feel good, all your organs are in the process of moving towards a harmonious and balanced state or are already there!

So I told her, 'I can help you but you have to let me speak to that part of your mind that's holding up this weight'. Intonation is the key when you talk to someone's unconscious. When you speak to a pet or a child why do you change your tone of voice? It's the same thing, people's unconscious minds respond better to resonant voices more than nasal tones!

The more parts of your body involved in producing the sound the better. Have you ever heard Gulzar's voice? I'll try to find a sound sample of his voice when I have my broadband, right now it's suffer-at-2G-network-time! I'm at an obscure cafe in Whitefield, Bangalore with my wireless internet device. However, the point is that he bathes you in his tonality. It doesn't just enter from your ears, the vibrations enter your skin!

EXERCISE

To develop a resonant voice, you'll have to start speaking from the pit of your stomach. Start with rumbling resonant vowels, AAAAAAAA, EEEEEEEEE, IIIIIIIIIII, OOOOOOOO, UUUUUUU then move to resonating consonants BBBBBBBBB, CCCCCCCC, DDDDDDDDDD, FFFFFFFFFF and so on. Practice everyday until your voice becomes resonant.

Never underestimate the power of the tone and tempo of your voice. If you want to help others you must be a master of this. Practice hard!

So back to the story, as soon as I said this, she let her consciousness admit my voice without analysing the words. It's difficult to consciously understand resonant words. Your conscious mind gets carried away by the quality of the words and skips the content.

And if you've got the attention of the unconscious mind a trance will result. Then it's a matter of communicating by creating purposeful pictures and sounds in the other person's mind. I said to her, 'If you hear me, Radha's unconscious (name changed to preserve my client's privacy) then see her thumb becoming warm. She said her thumb was becoming extremely warm, I touched it to check, it was indeed!

This means Radha's unconscious was listening to me! So I said to it, 'See the weight on her chest being lifted slowly by a large crane and going off into the distance, let the crane turn the corner and continue to see it until it becomes a speck on the horizon. See the muscles of Radha's chest soften and the skin fill with blood and fresh oxygen. Now take that condition of circulation and softness and see it spread all over her body. Let all her incomplete nerve impulses reach completion and relax all over her body. Close all the open circuits and hanging commands of her neurology. Let her feel complete again.'

In a matter of minutes Radha fell into a deep slumber. Her unconscious had knocked her consciousness right out while it made these adjustments. I continued to speak to Radha's unconscious, 'Make images of the last time Radha was carefree and happy and peaceful and complete. Multiply the feelings and chemicals that this state requires, to produce a state ten times more carefree and happy and peaceful and c o m p l e t e.' I was slowing the tempo of my voice to match the deeply relaxed vibrations of Radha's brain.

You have to dive right into a trance along with your client otherwise you won't know what's happening with them. By this time I was feeling as if I was floating on a cloud with soft saxophone notes in the background in between the words, the voices were coming from the depths of my being. it sounded more like a harmonised chorus than a single voice.

I said, 'When ever Radha looks inward to see how she's feeling show her the most exquisite parts of her neurology, the parts that are feeling the best. Let the best parts of herself be the reference points for her identity for the rest of her life. '

'Let her convert any less than exquisite feeling into an exquisite one. Blow off the lid that limits her from feeling good. Sort for better and better feelings everyday. Let her life be about exploring how much more exquisite she can feel. Reroute any searches for bad feelings to exquisite feelings, as she sleeps and dreams now make all these changes. When you have finished wake her up gently to the heavenly music of flutes.'

I waited for about 10 minutes, Radha woke up asking me who was playing the flutes.

She has become a very positive person since. She no longer complains of being mentally disturbed. Because when she sorts for that feeling her unconscious reroutes her to the exquisite parts of herself...

So slow your tempo, use resonant deep tonality, and play gentle rhythms in the background when you speak to yourself. You'll turn around your life.

Would you pay money to buy a CD of your current internal dialogue? If you wouldn't, change it to something you'd be eager to buy. You have the finest audio equipment in your head put it to good use! Tell me how it's going :)

Saturday, January 24, 2009

How to ruin a bad memory

Ever have something happen to you that you wish had never happened? Something you feel bad about regularly? Something you can't get over?

This post is for you. The method I'm going to describe ruins the neuropathways you've built to feel bad in whenever you think of that situation. So that you can actually see the humour in it.

This can also work with anything you want to stop thinking about in the same way.

First test the memory. think about this thing and see if it's triggering bad feelings in you immediately. See the picture and hear the sounds, run the movie of this bad experience. Now if you're feeling bad that's great, this is exactly what I'm talking about.

EXERCISE

To ruin a bad memory

1. Start at the very end of the memory. The part that really makes you feel bad. blow up the still image and turn up the volume.

2. Now start to play it backwards, everyone walks backwards, things fall up instead of down, bread pops into the toaster instead of out, you know what I;m talking about right? Just run it in reverse all the way back to the beginning before you had the event and all was well in the world. Below is an example of a backwards movie.



3. Even if it's a long movie run it backwards till the point in your life, back in time, when you were happy or laughing before this event happened.

4. As you run it backwards also run a circus music soundtrack



5. Do this several times until you feel better

6. Now test the memory, you won't be feeling so bad anymore, because you'd have ruined your ability to feel lousy with this memory

Enjoy your freedom and spread the cheer.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Timelines and waking up without an alarm clock

Most people think the future springs out of their past, that for every effect in the future the cause lies in the past. However the fact is that what you're doing now constitutes the bulk of your experience .

By doing I don't mean physical action alone. I mean the pictures and sounds that you see and hear internally. Your experience of this moment is subjectively created in the same instant. It is not from the past. It's all created in your head in the now!

Unless you bring the memory of the past into the present moment you cannot repeat an experience.

Unless you bring the memory of the future into your present moment you cannot experience new things.

If you notice the visual location of these two memories, you'll find them in different locations.

So the past and the future are not really time but different spaces into which we project our images and sounds to either repeat an experience or refine an experience. In fact time does not exist. We just represent it in space, it gives us an illusion of movement along a continuum. While the truth is that it's all re-created continuously this instant in our brains.

Some people represent time as shown in the pic below. It passes from one side to the other, that is, the past is on one side and the future is on the other. Such people never forget, either their past or their plans for the future. That's because it's all in front of their eyes! Also it's easy for these people to get overwhelmed with events because they see everything.

In NLP this is called 'in time'.

In Time

Through Time

The picture above shows another way of representing time where you locate the past behind you and the future in front of you. Such people can easily lose perspective if they make the immediate future much larger than their long term goals. They simply can't see their long term future if the image of immediate things become larger. In NLP this type of representation is called 'Through Time'

Many people use either of one representation systems. I use both.

If I need to do one thing followed by another I use the latter. If I need to remember a list of things to do I use the former. 'In time' is an overview, 'Through time' is the details.

Remember the present is always located just in front of your eyes in both timelines. So now you can navigate the direction of your energy and efforts. If you'd like to repeat something from the past simply drag and drop it in the present, just before your eyes. If you want to create a fresh experience, make one and drop it in the present, you can also mix and match experiences.

If you liked only a part of a past experience, take only that path and combine it with another nice experience and make a new experience. Just drop it either in the present if you want to experience it immediately or drop it in the future at the right time position.

EXERCISE

Waking up without an alarm clock

1. Let's say if you want to wake up tomorrow to a fanfare at 6am.

2. Access the fanfare from the past and place it at the location of 6am tomorrow on both the 'in time' 'through time' timeline, along with the visual of you waking up. You will wake up without an alarm clock.


here's the Rocky Fanfare if you don't have your own!

3. Try this a few times. If you can master this mechanism, you can use it to set off all kinds of If-Then effects.

For example you can feel really good everytime someone insults you. You can increase your metabolism and lose weight everytime you eat and so on. Watch out for the next post on this mechanism!

Just remember that you do this process naturally unconsciously to create the experience you are having at this moment anyway.

My question is why not choose what you experience consciously instead of believing that your past imprints determine your future?

So practice practice practice. The day you can choose a time and wake up exactly at the same time, you have established the mechanism which can set up your future experiences exactly as you'd like to have them!

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Unconscious Place of Motivation

Many people decide to go to the gym or yoga or for a jog or for kickboxing and never do. You decide to get your car stereo fixed or your house painted or go to your dentist and never do. Why is that? Why can't you just decide to do something, like make an extra 50000 bucks this month, and go ahead and do it? Of course you can. It's how you represent this thought internally that holds you back.

Remember, you learn things by forming neuro-pathways. You have the same neurological equipment as Gandhi, Mandela, Tesla, Donald Trump, Aishwarya Rai, Richard Bandler or anybody else on this planet. The way the equipment is wired is different in each person. You can wire yourself up to achieve anything. You already have the neurology, you just need the right wiring.

In this post I want to show you a powerful place of motivation and how to rewire yourself so that you can motivate yourself effortlessly to go and get what it is that you want.

Think of something that you've been meaning to do but never got around to doing. Learning the guitar, getting a haircut, finding a better job, making more money? What is it, for you, that you really need to move your butt and get going on?

When you think of this you have to make an image of it. Where do you see this image? Left, right, above, below, behind you? where? This is not the place of motivation really. In order to get motivated you have to see the image in a different location.

EXERCISE - To make something a compulsion

1. Unless you're a nudist, you have a compulsion to wear clothes when you leave your house right?

2. Notice two things. When I say, "Do you have to wear clothes when you leave the house?". Notice the location of the image formed. And notice the location of the voice which says 'yes'.

3. They need not be in the same location, you can see the image one place and hear the voice from another place. Now that you have found the sites I want you to begin constructing the motivation devices.

4. Put a large screen, like a multiplex movie screen exactly at the location of the image, see a DVD player below it also see a powerful speaker box in the location of the voice. Now visualise a DVD of you doing the thing you want to do so badly but never get around to it.

5. Push it into the DVD player and press play. The image of you doing it begins to play on the big screen in the compulsion location, ie. in exactly the same place where you saw the image of 'have to wear clothes when I leave the house'. In the powerful speakers you installed play this!

John Williams - 20th Century Fox Fanfare


Found at bee mp3 search engine

followed by...

Amadeus - APPLAUSE - LARGE OPERA HOUSE AUDIENCE: LONG APPLAUSE WITH SWELLS, CHEERS OF BRAVO, YELLS AND WHISTLES, CLOSE UP


Found at bee mp3 search engine


Great!

6. Now build a feedback device from your unconscious so that your unconscious can speak back to you. Draw wires from the screen into your right thumb. When the compulsion is installed tell your unconscious to let the thumb fill with a feeling of warmth.

7. Continue playing the DVD over and over until you feel heat building in your right thumb. Remember this is a message from your unconscious that it understands that you want to build a compulsion to do this thing you've been procrastinating. If your thumb is getting warm it means the installation is complete.

8. Do the installation 5-6 times and elicit the same response from your unconscious.

9. Now you will feel ferociously compelled to do this thing and you will find it extremely easy to do as well.

Try this and tell me how it went. I use this to motivate myself all the time. I have several DVDs in my mind that I play for different occasions when i need to feel compelled and motivated to do something.

PS nudists and exhibitionists obviously feel no compulsion to wear clothes in public, if you're one, please use any other compulsion of yours to find the compulsion location. Mail me if you're having trouble.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Talk Nice to Yourself

Most people are mean to themselves. They keep criticizing themselves. While this has it's uses to find out when you're wrong, you really need to hear criticism only once and take action. There's no need to nag yourself with an internal voice and fester bad feelings and ill health.

So how do you tell an internal voice to shut up?

The voice begins when you think you've done something wrong or when you compare yourself with others or when you feel you've been wronged and deserve more fair treatment, these are common ones but I know people who can nag themselves about pretty much anything!

What begins as a statement gains steam and soon your mind is booming with negative internal dialogue, in bad tonality.

This is good because you can now find it's location. For example, my nagging voice usually comes from my left side about 6-8 inches from my face opposite my cheek and it's directed towards me.

How would it be if your internal voice was this really sexy melting voice and it consoled you instead of criticising you? Read on...

EXERCISE

1. So go on, nag yourself, say all the negative things that you want. In bad tonality. Like you usually do... if you were nagging yourself before you started to read this, great! Build up the voice/ voices.

2. Find it's location in space. Where does the voice come out of. It's obviously directed towards you. So the first thing to do is to change the direction of the voice so that it's talking away from you. This will give you some relief.

3. Turn the volume of the voice down so that you get some more relief.

4. Now visualise little workers putting up a sound proof cabin around the voice so that you can't hear it at all.

5. Think of the sexiest voice that can melt your heart. If this sexy voice said your name you would just become a mush ball. Now take this voice and make it 10 times sexier.

6. Visualise the little workers fix a device on the sound proof cabin so that any criticism comes out only in this sexy voice and only once.

7. Let the sexy voice then say something to console you like, 'But you learned your lesson and are moving on you ...you hot person! Ooooooooooooh...'

8. You will feel a lot of relief from your nagging.

9. Practice this a few times until the conversion of voice happens automatically.

So now you no longer have to tell yourself how bad other people are to you or beat yourself up for something you did. You don't have to justify anything or rationalise anything in your head. You can be free to do all the things you want to do.

Free to carry on pragmatic, mature dialogue with yourself. Wouldn't that be nice :)

What if you learned this well and taught it to everyone you have to interact with on a daily basis? Wouldn't that make you really more free. Imagine if everyone was taught to control their internal nagging... we'd have more relaxed people all over the world.

Go on, make a start! Be the change!