Talk Nice to Yourself

Most people are mean to themselves. They keep criticizing themselves. While this has it's uses to find out when you're wrong, you really need to hear criticism only once and take action. There's no need to nag yourself with an internal voice and fester bad feelings and ill health.

So how do you tell an internal voice to shut up?

The voice begins when you think you've done something wrong or when you compare yourself with others or when you feel you've been wronged and deserve more fair treatment, these are common ones but I know people who can nag themselves about pretty much anything!

What begins as a statement gains steam and soon your mind is booming with negative internal dialogue, in bad tonality.

This is good because you can now find it's location. For example, my nagging voice usually comes from my left side about 6-8 inches from my face opposite my cheek and it's directed towards me.

How would it be if your internal voice was this really sexy melting voice and it consoled you instead of criticising you? Read on...

EXERCISE

1. So go on, nag yourself, say all the negative things that you want. In bad tonality. Like you usually do... if you were nagging yourself before you started to read this, great! Build up the voice/ voices.

2. Find it's location in space. Where does the voice come out of. It's obviously directed towards you. So the first thing to do is to change the direction of the voice so that it's talking away from you. This will give you some relief.

3. Turn the volume of the voice down so that you get some more relief.

4. Now visualise little workers putting up a sound proof cabin around the voice so that you can't hear it at all.

5. Think of the sexiest voice that can melt your heart. If this sexy voice said your name you would just become a mush ball. Now take this voice and make it 10 times sexier.

6. Visualise the little workers fix a device on the sound proof cabin so that any criticism comes out only in this sexy voice and only once.

7. Let the sexy voice then say something to console you like, 'But you learned your lesson and are moving on you ...you hot person! Ooooooooooooh...'

8. You will feel a lot of relief from your nagging.

9. Practice this a few times until the conversion of voice happens automatically.

So now you no longer have to tell yourself how bad other people are to you or beat yourself up for something you did. You don't have to justify anything or rationalise anything in your head. You can be free to do all the things you want to do.

Free to carry on pragmatic, mature dialogue with yourself. Wouldn't that be nice :)

What if you learned this well and taught it to everyone you have to interact with on a daily basis? Wouldn't that make you really more free. Imagine if everyone was taught to control their internal nagging... we'd have more relaxed people all over the world.

Go on, make a start! Be the change!